HEAL + RENEW + FLOURISH
Most of us pride ourselves on our independence and our ability to “get through” life struggles and daily challenges. Yet, there are times in all of our lives when we seem to be emotionally stuck or in a pervasive ‘bad place’. People usually come to counseling because they are in pain or sometimes feeling nothing, numb to the world. Others are experiencing dark points in life or relationships, constant agitation and irritability that you can’t understand. Sometimes we just don’t know what is wrong but we know something is out of alignment.
Much of our individual and collective understanding of love, life, and relationships is rooted in traditions of harm, subjugation, and violence. We enact these in our relationships, families, workplaces, and when internalized, even inflict it upon ourselves. We often eclipse our pain and suffering or it is met with silence by those around us. The enduring silence, shame, and stigma associated with seeking counseling within many ethnic communities has resulted in individual and collective disempowerment and continued suffering. Yet, there is a part of us that continues to seek a healthier, balanced self and to be surrounded by affirming relationships.
It is when we are unable to work through these issues alone or when they feel insurmountable that counseling can facilitate the journey back to health and balance. Through the therapeutic relationship, we are able to collectively address the perils that arise from living inauthentically and the complexities of life. We have deep individual and collective work in which to engage if we are to heal, renew and flourish. If you are ready to begin the process of this deep work and begin to stand in your truth and live a more fulfilling life, contact Dr. DeLoach.
Some of Dr. DeLoach's areas of specialization:
Depression
Anxiety
Women’s and gender issues
Sexual identity
Race and immigration related trauma
Domestic violence
Religious and spiritual issues
Self-esteem
Sexual assault
Post traumatic stress
Complicated grief
Family issues
Clergy
Learn more about Dr. DeLoach's approach to counseling and specialized services in Trauma and Reproductive and Maternal Mental Health.
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Following are some indicators that individual counseling may be helpful for you:
When nothing you do seems to feel rewarding or give you hope
When you have no one to talk to about your feelings, thoughts, or concerns
When you feel sad, angry, irritable, or even numb most of the time
When your spiritual beliefs, radical or non-conforming politics or identities leave you misunderstood or distanced by loved ones or those around you, counseling might be the place to have all of your identities and activism supported and nurtured.
You have difficulty in setting boundaries in personal or professional relationships or situations
Difficulty in establishing or maintaining personal relationships
When you are experiencing difficulty with emotional or sexual intimacy
When you have difficulty in sharing your feelings or communicating assertively
When you have difficulty with conflict and resolution
When you find yourself engaging in self-destructive behaviors or sabotaging positive opportunities in your life
If you are living real life with real struggles, have actual relationships, pain, suffering, or if you are just tired of being in the same place or feeling sh*tty, and you need additional support getting through it, professional counseling may be beneficial.
couples counseling
couples counseling
HEAL + RECONNECT + GROW
Relationships can be a great source of pleasure, companionship, and fulfillment. Life is complex and relationships often incur difficult and challenging times. Many of us may not have modern examples of healthy relationships or may not have learned how to give or receive unconditional love, set healthy boundaries, co-parent, or communicate compassionately and effectively with a partner. We may find ourselves holding on to unrealistic or unhealthy examples of relationships. Unhealthy relationships can also negatively affect our individual emotional health and psychological well-being.
Couples and marital counseling aims to help partners increase their understanding of one another, ways of relating, and underlying problems between them. It is an opportunity to prevent problems and enhance emotional and sexual intimacy in a relationship. In this way, the therapeutic process can be liberatory in teaching new ways of relating and communicating through the healing of past and present relational wounds. It is also a safe place to engage in collaborative decision making about next stages of a relationship such as marriage, relocation, separation, divorce, or custodial issues.
Dr. DeLoach has a degree specialization in Family Systems and is a seasoned couples and family therapist. She has received specialized training in empirically supported approaches to couples therapy. She is experienced in working with diverse couples and families who seek to heal, reimagine, or reinvest in their relationships. Following are some particular issues that Dr. DeLoach has addressed and may be an indicator that couples counseling may be helpful for you and your partner:
Emotional disconnection
Difficulty in communicating
Emotionally closed
Infidelity
Life transitions such as pregnancy, miscarriage, birth of child, employment change, relocation
Spousal mental health issues
Blended and ‘non-traditional’ families
Navigating ethical non-monogamy
Cultural differences and in-law conflict
Pre-marital counseling
Divorce, separation, and uncoupling
family counseling
STRENGTHENING FAMILIES + BUILDING THE VILLAGE
Family relationships are complex. We share history, positive and adverse life experiences, and familial bonds. We often rely on family for love and support yet, for many of us, our family has not been there for us in the way that we need them most. In families, we can both love and hurt one another deeply. We may have a child or partner with unique physical or mental health needs that we want to better support. Substance abuse and addiction may be present, violence or other forms of abuse may have been a part of our family experience or legacy. Sometimes, we have grown apart and want to repair these relationships.
In family therapy, we help you to process and find solutions to familial wounds, conflicts, emotional distance or estrangement and learn to effectively communicate to establish healthy emotional boundaries and strengthen familial bonds. With Dr. DeLoach’s degree specialization in family systems, she is uniquely qualified and experienced to work on the most complex family issues. If you are experiencing challenges in your family of origin or family of choice, contact Dr. DeLoach to begin rebuilding the village.